Having a songwriter as a husband has lots of perks. One of which are trips that are paid for, or at least partially paid for. Luckily, one of Jonathan's awesome songwriter friends included him (and me) on a writer's night at Fallsview Casino in Niagara Falls. We'd never seen the Falls, so we thought it would be a good opportunity to have a much needed adult weekend. In preparing for the trip, I realized it had been over a year since we'd had a vacation alone. And that's a really long time for what we're used to! So needless to say, we were both super excited. Canada wouldn't have been my first choice for an adult vacay, but I'm not complaining about a baby free weekend! Plus it turned out to be really fun!
The first night, we were so stoked to be out & not have to worry about Jett (thanks, Mom!) that we just ran around the casino like a couple of crazy people who'd never been in public before. I definitely sat at the video black jack table too long, & Jonathan definitely put way too many $20's in the slot machines. (I miiiight have put a 20 in the Sex & the City machine & got waaaay too excited when I won 16 bucks…) But it was so fun just being silly & being with each other. I'm not sure when it happened, but I realized how old I'd been feeling before. This little getaway reminded me of the crazy times we had before we had Jett. Like when we first met & I was only 18 type young. It was fun, sweet, magical, carefree & irresponsible. Exactly what we needed!
The next day, we slooowly got out of bed & went to breakfast. We had an amazing view of the falls, which was all the more reason to stay in bed a little longer, right? Anyway, we went to breakfast…Well, I guess you could call it brunch since it was almost noon by the time we got there. Then, we walked down to see the pretty waterfalls & take some photos, then spent most of the afternoon looking at photos & videos of Jett thinking about how much we missed him. We even went back to newborn photos. I think Jonathan might have teared up once, but don't tell him I said so ;) That's when I realized just how bad we needed time to ourselves.
After we got ourselves together, we went to relax a little before Jonathan had to play. Oh, I forgot the best part! The people in Canada are SO nice, but at the casino, they literally treated us like we were celebrities. I mean, they escorted us to our room in a private elevator. And that was after they had the LIMO come get us at the airport. Hahaha! Not bad for a first getaway. Getting the star treatment was definitely a plus. Jonathan hates it, but I just put my sunglasses on & act like I'm somebody :) Gimme my two days, people. Speaking of, I never got to share this video of me & Amanda getting paparazzi-ed in L.A. I like to pretend they were looking for US all night and then there we were! And Blake Shelton & Miranda Lambert just happened to be there too! Ha! So, that's my 2 days + 5 seconds of fame. Back on track: we were escorted (haha! it's so funny now that I think about it) down to the green room before the show with the other songwriters. And being in a room of songwriters is entertaining enough on it's own. It was fun getting to spend some time with all of them as a group. Very nice guys & a very good show.
It was so fun to see Jonathan play again too. The first 8 years of our relationship, I probably didn't go more than a week without seeing him play, & since he's slowed down & focused more on writing, I've realized how much I miss seeing him in action! And it's really amazing to see him play songs he's written that a room full of people that we don't even know are singing along. I can't imagine how proud i'll be of Jett one day, because I almost cry just thinking about how proud I am of Jonathan for working so hard. It's been so exciting to see how things all played out. When we first met, we spent most of our time drinking beer & moonshine in a trailer in Cedar Grove, Tennesse. And now we're taking limos to Canadian casinos & being escorted everywhere! Hahahahaha! Sorry about the "haha's," but I keep laughing out loud every time I think about it. So, yeah, I'm very proud & happy for him. His talent blows me away every day. But do know that I loved that trailer in Cedar Grove & wouldn't have changed a thing about those days:)
So what all this comes down to is that it really is amazing that just one night or two away was able to kind of recharge us as a couple. We always get along & rarely fight, but we've never had to put anything or anyone else before each other or our relationship. We're learning how to be parents every single day, but equally important, we're learning how to keep the love we have for each other strong so we can be even better parents for little Jetterbug. We constantly work on communication, (as we're both pretty bad at it) & we've had to learn to find a balance in every day life so we don't end up being resentful or angry at each other. It happens sometimes, but we always figure out a way to work it out. It's really hard sometimes, but it's so fun watching Jonathan as a dad. He's even better as a dad than I ever imagined!
Moral of the story for parents: Take some time for yourself & don't feel guilty about it. It will make your relationship stronger which will make you stronger as parents, which will make your kid stronger & happier. It's good to miss your kid (or kids) & have time to remember why you fell in love in the first place. So go get to planning your getaway! You'll be happy you did! Cheers!
|View from our room|
|Skylon Tower. A 70-something year old man walked across a tightrope from here to the top of a hotel every night. With no harness. It was terrifying.|